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November 1, 2023
If you’re a mom you know. If you’re a mom with a job, with dreams, with kids, with laundry, with a dusty dresser in your bedroom that won’t stay clean because you have to sleep with the fan every night or else you don’t get those precious four hours of sleep that all moms need.

I need more time in my day.

It’s eight o’clock and I’m ready for a shower but I have all these big plans about writing and marketing and reaching out to readers, and my children (who live too far away) running around inside my head. I try to maintain my focus, while in the shower, which by the way is supposed to be relaxing. Okay (my editor would love that I spelled OK, okay) anyway…my shower hasn’t been relaxing in twenty years. Every now and then while I’m under the spray I remember how much I love hot water and relish in it until the push to get out and carry on with the day’s goals cuts off any thoughts of restorative healing. And damn…every mother I know…even the one dressed up in tight pants and heels to go through the car line deserves restorative healing.

Because you’re a mom.

So big decisions need to be made. Do I join my lovely writing friends in NaNoWriMo, or continue trying to fit this writing inside of skinny moments I find between working, and home. The writing personality quiz I took today tells me I would write better in 15-20 minute time frames or focus on 100 words a day. WTF? I used to crank out 2000 a day. I thought when my kids got older I’d be able to spend more time writing. HMMMMM. Not working out that way. I must help with high school English. I must read Ray Bradbury’s There Will Come Soft Rains so I can have an intelligent conversation with my son about the importance of analyzing this text. But I will not tell him that the English teacher has it out for all parents in her class because that’s what it feels like. You know what reading this did? It lead me down a rabbit hole of wanting to know this story’s history and the relationship between it and the poem by Sara Teasdale. OMG! My brain was lit up. My son…not as thrilled.

So now. DO I join Nano, or do I sit here and try to crank out 100 words a day, without the support I clearly need to get me back on track. Because the Firestones have a few characters that still need their stories told. I can’t have them locked inside of me forever. I’ll never get sleep.

Be Brave. Love Hard. ~Mar

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